April 3rd Daily Stand up

 Yesterday

• Food Plan ✅
• Calories in: ~1928 🔴
• Calories out: 3182 ✅
• Workout
• Weights ✅
• Cardio (Bike) ✅
• 1500 Cals burned before noon ✅
• Macros (35/31/34) ✅
• Mindset ✅

I thought I was doing good yesterday.  Felt focused, motivated, strong....

But there was also, some stuff going on that I think I wasn't addressing: Stress at work, with money, and just some overall feeling MEH.

So, when I rolled into Trivia, ordered and beer and had it in my hand I immediately felt 'relief' knowing it was going to relax me.  That I could stop being 'good' and 'responsible' and stop my brain from feeling whatever it was feeling...

I fought a little with the urge to overdrink but the fight didn't last long.  I was only a few seconds before I said 'fuck it'

The thought - I was to feel 'better' 'relaxed' 'no stress'

^^ I need to do this without needing food and DRINK!

on top of this I got my food schedule messed up and didn't eat before headed to trivia AND didn't bring food with me, though I had intended to. So I was hungry.  The only thing there - Reese's.  At least they were mini cups - and I only had a few...

Then, when I got home w/alcohol in my system, I went for whatever sounded good.  So, not the stew I had planned.  instead, I had a protein shake over granola.  Not the worst choice, and for that, I'm grateful.  And I'm also grateful for the strong choices I made early in the day to get my workout in, and keep carbs low so that I had the room for carbs in my macros :D 

So, while it wasn't 'great' there were some big high points in the day.  If I can figure out how to calm my brain down without food and drink I think it's going to make a HUGE difference in my results long term. (and make it easier to maintain when that day comes)

I want to make good/better choices a habit not a battle. 

I want to make stopping at enough a habit not a battle.

I want to make exercise as easy to my brain as drinking water. 

I'll get there....

Today's goals

• Food Plan
• Calories in: ~1400
• Calories out: 3000+
• Workout
• Weights
• Cardio (Bike)
• 2000 Calories burned before 8PM
• Macros (30/30/30)
• Mindset: don't sit with stress - write it out - think it through - find relief!

April 2 Daily Standup

 Yesterday:

• Had a food plan ✅
• Calories in: 1440 ✅
• Calories Out: 3,110 ✅
• Workout
• Weights ✅
• Cardio (Walk/Run) ✅
• 1500 Cals burned ✅
• Macros (30/30/30) ✅
• 35/22/43* Protein high is OK!
• Mindset - GREAT! feel like I'm making great choices and keeping goals top of mind

Was great to be offered to Reese's and know I could fit it into my plan

Today:

• Food Plan
• Calories in: ~1400
• Calories out: 3000+
• Workout
• Weights
• Cardio (Bike)
• 1500 Cals burned
• Macros (30/30/30)
• Mindset: Keep in mind long term goals sometimes require short-term sacrifice 

Notes to Myself

 I've been really frustrated lately because I haven't had a lot of success with weight loss for the first 1/4th of the year.  I've been trying to remember what I was thinking, how I was feeling, and what I was doing those times that I was losing weight successfully.  Only, I keep looking back trying to find that info ... and I'm just NOT! 

I know it wasn't happening by MAGIC, but I can't seem to find any notes or any data to correlate what was going on at the time...

That stops today.  Time to get back to making a note of my choices so that if/when I have success, I know what I did to get there and can repeat it!  It's like the VERY BASIS of what I preach in my work life.  Why haven't I done this here?

What's going to follow is my capturing what I can of my current circumstances, what I'm thinking, what I'm feeling and what I'm DOING ... and any and all results I'm getting.  (the model for those who are familiar)

So, it's April 2nd :D 

My weight is 270.35 down .11 pounds for the Week/Month/Quarter (which started yesterday)

and down 25.40 pounds since my highest weight in Dec 2018.  135.35 pounds to go to goal.

My focus this Month: Mindful (eating), Move (at least 30 min a day), Motivate (myself throughout the day), Macros (30/30/30)

Specifically this week: 

Mindful

Only eating if hungry and stopping before FULL

Planning my food ahead of time in the Lose it App (aiming for about 1400 calories but being MINDFUL of my hunger signals over calorie counts)

Move

Lifting weights 5days - back on the MAX-OT train... doing week 1 of the program today.  Though I'm modifying it to fit into my home gym

2 days of 30 minutes of biking

2 days of 30 minutes of treadmill

1 day of 'play' doing whatever I feel like (oculus) for 30 minutes

However... there's an overall goals for each session to...

hit 6,000 steps

hit 1500 calories burned

that usually means I need to spend some extra time on the treadmill just walking

and then... 30 minutes of OUTDOOR walking at the end of the day if the weather allows it

Motivate

Blog here daily

every day, read my motivational cards

post my workouts online

Macros

I've been thinking about when my life felt really balanced and I was still losing weight.  I keep coming back to balanced macros... I call it 30/30/30 because it's easy to remember - I realize that it doesn't add up to 100%! but the goal is to keep the ratios of macros to around 30% each.  so days it might be 20 and some days it might be 40 and that's ok.  but what's important is to not keep turning down a piece of bread because I'm 'dieting' and also to not eat an entire bag of easter candy because 'now I've blown it, may as well keep going!"

this worked REALLY well yesterday.  I tend to run low carb overall because... I don't know.. I don't think sugar is all that healthy, I don't love the way most bread feels in my body (if I eat a lot of it) and it's just the way a typical day goes for me.  I feel healthy and energized when I prioritize protein in my diet.  So, at the end of the day yesterday I was feeling a bit hungry (a pre-requisite) and someone offered up a reese's peanut butter Egg.  I looked over my data for the day and sure enough, there was more than enough room in my life for a peanut butter egg! So, 30/30/30 allows me to focus on foods that feel really good in my body, while also allowing to enjoy 'indugences' without it triggering fuck it thoughts.

so, what else am I thinking and feeling right now?

here's some thoughts

I love myself enough to want to lose weight.  

Stopping sooner on one thing means I can eat more of EVERYTHING!

Hungry food is the best food.

The process I choose is less important than the thoughts I have about it...

My current thoughts about what I've chosen...

This is how I get to my goal.  How I get to the future me that I want.  Strong, Lean, fit, athletic.. but balanced.  Someone is energetic, healthy and FUN! 

I want my body to transform, but not my life! I like my life. 

And that's me, today

 It's Monday Marth 4th and offically the first Monday of March.  

What better time to do some hard core planning :D I'm sick of feeling like I'm constantly half assing.  Stuck in underwhelm.  I feel like I'm practicing toxic self-acceptance.  There's a lack of urgency that's leading to continuous postponement.  I'm not moving forward with my goals, and I try to convince myself that 'it's ok,' we'll just 'be better' tomorrow... but tomorrow never comes.

Part of this involves the mind shift that 'working toward my goals' is fulfilling and meaningful.  Or, to put it more simply, "Enjoying the process'.  Maybe it's better to evaluate some of those times when I feel like I put my short term enjoyment over my long term goal.

1) Tuesday night, cheesecake and beer.  While I planned some cheesecake and beer, it went from 1 beer to 2 to 3 too.. maybe four? And a slice of cheesecake turned into two, and some bite, licks and taists of more throughout the night...

2) Giving into urges several times over the second half of the week.  Snacking on bread and sweets.

3) One large whiskey on Friday night, that turned into two...

4) Saturday - 2 slices of pizza and I was not hungry..anymore but instead I continued to eat and had four.  Then, I had candy on top of that and still was having urges.  Had two big cup candies on the way to karaoke, and then stopped for burrito and chips on the way home and THEN had a slice of bread when I got home.  I'm pretty sure all the extra food was caused by alcohol making my blood sugar tank. (plus staying up late/tired)

I'm not sure what to do with all these urges for sweets/carbs.  They hit when I'm not hungry, so I can't use that as an excuse.  There doesn't seem to be any kind of stress or negative thoughts associated... I just am having 'big urges' for stuff.  Maybe I'm tired? Maybe it's because I've been allowing soda back into my life?  I'm going to cut out the Diet Pepsi and see if this week is easier.

I guess the big, most important question to ask myself is, "What do I want to do differently this week?" 

White knuckling isn't the answer, and 'try harder' is also not a thing.  I want this to be easy.  I want to enjoy the process.  I want the 'hit' of the instant win.

So, here's what I've decided.

1) Plan.  I've really resited planning my food cause.. I don't know why.  but all too often I've found myself 'foraging' and often making quick, impulsive and unsatisfying food choices.  I want to work toward choices that feel good and reinforce my lifestyle.  What's important (and hard) is that I don't turn planning into DIETING.  often when I plan I plan all the 'good things' for weight loss and I struggle with a balance approach.  It's very much all or nothing.  I'm either planning good things or I'm not planning and indulging.  I want to PLAN for indulgences but do it mindfully.  Plan for GOOD things - plan for what matters.  I haven't figured out what that looks like yet, but hey, I don't have to have it all figured out do I?

2) Hydrate! anytime I have an urge, drink some water! I think my body really loves/wants water more than I imagine.

3) Reflect on my Wins - when I'm practicing self-reflection and journalling regularly - I succeed.  Now it could be that I'm just better at journalling when I'm being successful :D But I need to work back into daily reflection.  I think that happens naturally when I'm actually planning each day.  Doing a plan requires that I reflect on the day too.  For both of these things I'm going to put time for journaling and planning back on to my calendar and than honour my calendar.  I wish I had other ideas on how to 'celebrate' my small daily wins too.  adding that to my to-do list.

hmm three things to experiment with this week seems like enough...

ooo - I had a thought...

I love to play DnD so I'm going to make myself a random treasure table.  At the end of the day, when I'm reflecting on my day and cataloging my wins, I'm going to random a D20 and get something off the table.

:D winning!

 I just had a thought. Yes, I was listening to Corinne Crabtree at the time, but it had nothing to do with what she was talking about. It just kind of came out of the blue and popped into my head

I needed to gain this weight back.

Seriously, I was starting my last set of squats and my brain was doing it’s usual aimless wondering (one of the reason I love to work out) and suddenly it paused, looked at me and said ‘we needed to gain this weight’

I stopped and went ‘What!?’

And my brain nodded and said, “there were things we didn’t learn the first time so we needed to gain this weight so we could learn them…”

The sense of rightness…and peace that came over me! I can’t even tell you!

Not only does it make this work I’m doing seem even more valuable…But, now I know, if I ever gain weight again… it’s not because I’m a failure. It’s because there are things I still need to learn. And this was how I needed to learn them.

(For those who don’t know me - I joined in April 2019 and from then to March 2020 went from 295 to 237. I then started gaining and got up to April 2022 I was 283. I am now 249. I didn’t think I had been beating myself up about it. But after that thought I realized my inner drill Sergeant was still saying ‘you just didn’t do enough, try hard enough… blah blah blah’

But none of that is true! I just had lessons still to learn. We all do!))

 I’ve been more hungrier than usual this week (and judging myself for it) having bigger urges than normal (and judging myself for it) and not seeing the results I like (and…you get it)

Today, my Aunt Flo visited after being absent for three months. Seems like ‘the pause’ isn’t here yet.

And lesson learned. Sometimes it’s just my body going through some stuff and I need to give myself a little grace and trust.

 I did my assessment and set my weekly goal two days ago but today I’m going to make some changes (this is what it means to be agile)What I realized is my current goals were missing something … I had forgotten to check in with my vision. My weight loss vision is weight loss without all the diet bullshit. And I realized while assessing yesterday's day.. I've been using planning as a way to sneak that diet bullshit back into my life... (probably why I've resisted planning so much!)

So, when I started having urges ... and those urges felt like white knuckling... and when I gave into those urges and went off plan ... I used the 'off plan' part as a reason to tune out.. hurry up and eat... and piled an overeat on top of an off plan eat...

I also realized that another faulty 'diet thinking' habit I have. I have a tendency when I'm 'focused on weight loss' to see how much restriction I can 'tolerate' and still live my life... as in, I'm ok with leaving two bites behind, that didn't feel crummy so let's see if I can leave three...Just how hungry can I stand to be? and then I start having big urges for sugar and carbs (wonder why? I'm hungry - duh) I grab a candy bar and then go 'Oh - this isn't on plan! better eat it fast!' and mindless eating (see above)

So.. here's what I'm going to change... I'm not going to plan (*gasp*) rather than working on the habit of a doable plan AND the habit of listening to doable hunger I'm only going to work on hunger for ALL the rest of this week.

What does that mean for me? It means I eat whatever I'm hungry for... want a candy bar? fine - have a candy bar. But you're going to eat that fucker mindfully. You're going to slow down and actually have every bite. You are going to chew it, and not gulp it. you're going to acknowledge now much is left with each bite instead of looking down and being surprised that 'It's all gone already!? I need a second one! I didn't even enjoy that one!'

And - I'm going to EAT when I'm hungry and actually eat to enough... Stop playing this restriction game with myself. it's not about how little I can have and still have a life... it's how much I can enjoy and still get results!

Do you hear that dictator BRAIN!! the goal is abundance with results!!!

So, how does this look in action?

One - like I said.. no planning. I need to prove to my planning brain that I can do this 'eat anything' thing. (the caveat to that is my weekly dinner planning cause there is nothing that stressing me out at the end of the day more than no knowing 'what's for dinner?'.

two - Im going to continue to use my slow eats app. Even for formally 'bad' foods. If these truly are things I love I want to take the time to enjoy them. Not feel like I'm one of the dogs trying to gulp down a treat before anyone finds out I cleared the counter. I did this a few times last week when I had a cookie and it was actually a cool experience.

three - Make sure I'm truly eating to enough and not just 'not hungry' (eat to 2 instead of 0 to the OG members) since Slow Eats let's me track how many bites I'm taking - that might help me measure. I'm pretty confident that there's a pretty normal 'range' of bites but I need to be open to experiment with them and willing to listen even MORE than I have been.

four - eat when I'm hungry. small letter hungry not HUNGRY! as my kiddo and I like to say - listen for Kathy voice hunger not Corinne voice hunger. Maybe that means timed eating.. or even just a reminder to check in. (I think ADD brain makes me miss hunger cues a lot) - or, I'll acknowledge hunger and then forger I was going to eat... I'll need to get more specific on that moving forward...

anyone had success moving from only noticing you're hungry when you're HUNGRY? what worked for you?

 My (personal) deep dive assessment of last week...(I don't have any data from last week - so can't really compair)

Days Planned 7/7 (up from 0)
Total meals eaten 27
% of those meals that were off plan 14.8
% of those meals that I ate when not hungry 11.1
% of those meals that I overate 7.4%

I didn't start doing 'discovery' on my overeats until later in the week but from the data I did get

2 "Eating when not hungry" were trigger by "Seeing something and thinking - that looks good/fun etc"
1 also included "Bored"

1 overeat was "This tastes good"

I also used an App during my meal (slow eats) 76% of the time (again, started it mid week) and it helped EVERY SINGLE TIME to remind me to slow down and evaluate the next bite - I left bites behind 29.6 % of the time

0 off plan drinking

I worked out 5 days last week (on plan)

I drank at least 64 oz of water every day

I averaged 6:50 of sleep each night

Results

I was down 3.9lbs this morning at weigh in
Resting heart rate was the most stable it's been in AGES
(need to double check my blood pressure - haven't done that in a while)

Measurements will happen end of this week as I do that monthly but I did fit into a NON-STRETCH pair of size 18W jeans

So what am I going to ...
Keep doing Cause it worked?

making a daily plan
logging each meal when I eat (I created a form through google to ask me to answer the questions I want to track)
Keep working out/drinking water/sleep on point
Journaling on my 'why' for making and following a plan

Stop doing cause it isn't working or I'm not ready

I don't have anything to put here this week

Start doing as an experiment

I've decided to just focus on my current experiments and not add anything new

Goal for the upcoming week

7/7 plans
water: at least 64 oz
Sleep: aim for 7 hrs
log every meal
5 days of workouts

1.75 pounds

 I think it’s Sooooo important to talk to ourselves this way! This is this morning’s TDL

Dear past self. Thank you for sticking to the plan and not over drinking yesterday. Yes, there were some moments of FOMo last night but in the morning light, I can acknowledge wasn’t hard. Just had to listen to a little whining and the true is the alcohol would not have made the night ANY better.

Waking up this morning after a good night’s sleep. No headache, not dehydrated being able to remember exactly who I talked to and what I did is a gift I gave myself!

Also thank you to the me that made my plan. So I was able to enjoy the day having eaten the right kinds and timing of food that I was able to enjoy my planned drinks without it going to my head and opening the door to drunk binging on food and more drink.

I didn’t weigh in this morning because honestly, my major why’s for what I planned was not for the scale. It was for all the reasons I listed above, a clear head, feeling good in my body and the confidence created by a plan well made and well followed.

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 More to share! (you can tell when Shawn is working the program!)

Iamma gunna tell ya how I got here first than give you my 'ah-ha' (I'll try to keep it short!)

I started planning again this week. AND I started writing down my WHYs (other than weight loss) for doing the four basics (really mostly about writing and following a plan - cause those are my trouble spots)

So, today I was getting that 'Friday Fuck it Feeling' and this was the conversation in my head

"I want a beer"

"No, I really want to keep up with this weight loss"

"I have a choice. I can choose a beer or I can chose lose weight"

"That's a sucky choice - no wonder I give up so often - what if I say fuck it to weight loss, who needs weight loss anyway?"

then I had a brain wave

"But, I made a plan NOT to have a beer tonight - so the choice is ACTUALLY, 'I can choose a beer - or I can choose to show respect for my past self who made this plan!'"

FIRE!!! I choose to show myself respect!

Below the fold info:

I write a plan so that I don't have to worry about for the rest of the day. Planning food keeps my long term goals in mind (health and fitness as well as weight)

Following my plan shows self respect. It strengthens my commitment muscle and my consistency muscle. It shows I care about my past self (who made the plan) and the future self who lives with the consequences of my choices

Food tastes better when I'm hungry. The first bite on a empty stomach is incredibly satisfying - each bite after that is less so until they aren't even 'worth' it. If I start already 'full' I'll miss that first oh so satisfying bite.

Stopping at enough makes it easier to digest, keeps me from being in discomfort. Eating more = more discomfort and food is less and less enjoyable to eat. Stopping at enough is honoring my body. It is self care. Stopping at enough means I can be hungry sooner and get the satisfaction of the 'first bite' again.

 zomg, ZOMG, ZOMG!!!

So, one of the things I've been working on is stopping at enough. Like others I've struggled with my enough signals and I realize that (for me...) most of the time it is because I eat too fast... and/or eat distracted and just mindlessly shovel food in my mouth until I hit bottom.

I've been working on ways to make mindful eating easier. and I found something that (so far) is working. it's an app called Slow Eats (I have an iphone and it cost less than $2) (So far I have also tested FINT --- was ok but didn't love it, Eat Slower -- didn't like it at all, In the Moment: was good for pausing before eating)

What you do is you set how long you want to go between bites and it will 'sound' or vibrate at that interval. This morning, since I'm at my desk eating while I work I set it to sound - no one would hear it but me. I set it to 30 seconds (will probably increase gradually).

it goes "Plonk" I take a bite and set my fork down.. then do other things for a bit (start reading an email etc). It goes "Plonk" I take another bite and do other things for a bit.. It goes "Plonk" repeat. Until it went "Plonk" and I didn't pick up my fork. it went "Plonk" again and I didn't pick up my fork.. after about the fourth time I realized... "Um... that must mean I've had enough!?"

Dude there is a LOT of food left behind!

I can't wait to continue to experiment with this!

 I’ve been toying with setting ‘real’ weight loss goals again and once again ALL the shit comes up. I’ve been doing this on a semi regular basis for a couple of years now. But, now, some of the things I’ve been telling myself to counter the old shitties are starting to feel like trueths. That’s progress!!

My company is having a celebration for it’s employees in Jan - a cruise in the Bahamas- it also happens to be my 55th birthday! So lately I’ve been asking myself “I wonder how much I could lose by then?” (I have another cruise in Feb - so triple the want to look and feel the best I can)

Earlier this weekI heard that same ol’ thought “well, if your going to lose weight, you better have a plan… time to clean out the cupboards, get out your calorie counter and cut out all the carbs… where’s my food list!”

Immediately, I felt the panic, the need to run away or fight. But then I asked that voice “WHY!? Why implement all these rules when I’m not even following the basics of all basic rules?? (Making and following a plan) how can I say that that won’t work, that it isn’t enough when I haven’t even bothered to be consistent enough to know?”

So, I’ve been making plans this week and assessing…and I’ve been journaling on why each of the basics is important (for more than weight loss)

But, I heard ‘the dictator’ loud and clear again this morning (i didn’t lose 10 pounds in three days after all )

“You are broken! You did all those stupid diets in the past and now you are broken. The only way for you to lose weight is to be deprived and desperately hungry - always. Also working out 2+ hours a day”

I had to take a deep breath and calm down. I realized I was giving myself two losing scenarios. Either starve or be overweight. And for about two years now I’ve chosen to just fix my thoughts about being overweight. It was ‘easier’

But, as I said, I’m starting to see the lies for what they are. Those are NOT my only choices!! Or to be more honest - I’m willing to say I don’t KNOW those are my only choices.

I may not be able to let go of all the fucked up thinking I have about weight loss. But can I just… make one small change and see what happens? If I don’t lose weight I haven’t hurt anything. I’m no worse off than I am today.

I know, this is a little (a lot) rambly. And maybe it’s because the things I’m learning are a little ‘no duh!’ Instead of big profound ‘New thinking’

Maybe I’m just trying to confirm for folks that yes, it is possible to think - to start to believe new thoughts. And even when you don’t the first 100 times… and it doesn’t feel like your making progress… you are. One day you’ll wake up and the dictator will scream at you “Today we’re going to eat 1000 calories and no carbs! If your serious about losing weight get serious!”

And your inner wild child will say “No! Fuck weight loss it’s more fun to be fat!!”

And you’ll tell them both “Hold on! There is another choice!”

And they will both go … “Oh! Yeah! Thanks for the reminder”

And you will physically feel the change in your body and realize they both believe you and believe in you and… it’s amazing.

 The photo on the left popped up for me today as a memory from 2018. Before NOBS.

And then the right is a photo from last month…

 ;tldr I've figured out a way to track data that works for me and most importantly, I've found a reason I like for doing this. This new perspective has made me realize that having a reason you like is not just for justifying choices, but also for motivating positive behaviors.

My brain started thinking about urges today. It began with a conversation about finances - and me thinking about how much of my spending is/was impulse buying. And that got me thinking about overall (lack of) impulse control and how that affects so much of my life with overspending, overdrinking, and overeating...

And then I realized I really have no data around my urges. I FEEL like most are 'I want that' thoughts - but I don't know for sure. I also don't know how often I give in to those urges - or really where my work around urges is...

I've also struggled with habit trackers and doing discovery worksheets and all that. I understood the value, but the format and/or the information I got out of it wasn't really what I needed (at that time).

So, today I asked myself - what do you want to know?

here is the list I created

1. how many urges I have and for what? (food, drink, other)
2. what I'm doing when I have an urge
3. what was the first trigger? if it was a thought - what was that thought
4. was I noticing any strong feelings?
5. Did I give into the urge?

From all of this I should be able to figure out any trends and from there, determine where my next course of action is....

So, I created a google survey that asks me some basic questions and saves them in a sheet. That sheet can be sorted etc to look for any trends!

And for my Atomic Habit people here's the skinny...

The Habit I want to create is to log every urge I have...

I made it obvious - by making the form easy to access and available on my phone's home screen and computer

I made it attractive - it's rewarding to check off the boxes and watch the information grow

I made it easy - a simple form that only asks questions that fill my data needs right now

satisfying -data is available immediately and I can work to grow progress over time with visual graphs

And one last power thought I had...

although I know data is important to the journey - I wasn't doing it. I think because deep down I didn't like my reasons. Data felt like it was a reason to shit on myself. It was 'all the info' or none at all, it was 'perfect every day' or useless...

But, today I found a reason I liked and a mindset that motivates me AND makes me happy and excited to do it.

it's funny because Corinne talks about 'having a reason you like' all the time... and I always associated that with things like 'making a food choice' or a way to 'justify' what would have previously 'bad' behavior...

But today I realized that the same can be said for positive behaviors. Do youu want to get them done? Have a reason you like!

I know, I know she's said it again and again...

wanna give up bread? cool, have a reason you like

wanna IF? cool, have a reason you like

but today, internalized that in a way I hadn't experienced before...and as someone whose big thing has been diet trauma... who has avoided making a Good/Better/Best list who's avoided data and making plans... it just FINALLY clicked! the problem isn't the process... it's that I hadn't found. a reason I liked!

{{mind blown!}}

 Motivation isn't what we think it is...

I've always.' known' this. Heck Corinne talks about it a lot too, but I've just experienced this on a level that has been so eye-opening that I had to share... and I think will change my core values forever.

You see - we're using the word "motivation" wrong. What we think it means is to be "happy or excited in a positive way to do something"

When we say we're not motivated, what we are saying is "I'm not excited about doing this.. the thought of doing this doesn't bring a happy flutter to my heart"

But, that's not what the real definition of motivation is. Motivation is "the state or condition of being motivated or having a reason to act or accomplish something"

Motivation isn't being HAPPY to do something, it's simply having a reason to do it! In fact, we can be motivated to do something while feeling dread...

Let me give you my current example. I am unemployed. I got laid off Mid-June and looking for a job is a lot of work - especially when you are getting NO results. I woke up this morning, sat on my favorite chair and thought ."Fuck I don't want to do this today"

I was dreading it.

But was I still 'motived' to do it? Yeah! I still have a really BIG reason to open up my computer and find a few more places to send my resume to. A few more people to network with...

So, think about this next time you want to moan about not being motived to do your workout, or make your plan, or drink your water, or stop at enough...

Take out the word motivated and add "Not Happy" or "Not Excited" it changes it slightly, doesn't it?

To me when I hear myself say "I'm not motivated to work out today" It sounds so reasonable... but when I say what I really mean "I'm not excited to work out today" I realize what a punny excuse it is.

So instead, ask - do I have a reason for doing this thing? Is that reason good enough to 'motivate' you to do it; happy or not? excited or not? results or not? Even if it's just for today.

Yeah - maybe the later work is to figure out how to be happy or excited... and that's an amazing place to be. But that's a 'nice to have' not a 'must have'. to be motivated.

This is a game-changer for me

 Just sharing because I found this funny...

Today I was having some thoughts about an off plan/overeat last night that felt very close to a breakthrough...

So, since I was sitting at my desk I opened google real quick and started a google doc. But then I thought - it's really really quiet I need something - I know! I'll play Corrine's journaling playlist on spotify while I write...

Clicks around a bit and realizes I don't have spotify on this computer... opens aps, searches for spotify...can't find it... then opens a browser and finds the download, downloads, loses the download file, finds it, installs, has to remember how to log in...browses playlists for a while,

ooo look! Hoobastank! they have a new album. Listens a bit.. starts browsing for a job again....it's been 30 minutes and I just remembered I was going to journal

--- Yeah, I'm going to it now!

 I joined PNP Tribe in 2019 - between then and March 2020 I lost almost 60 pounds. Then - well, we all know what happened to the world. Between March 2020 and Feb 2022 I gained back 46 pounds.

I came back from a trip to Disney World determined to figure it out..

Did I immediately start dropping weight and eating perfect and hitting all my goals? Pfffft NO! But I came in determine to discover a lifestyle that would drop the weight, keep it off and feel like I was living in integrity.

Did I immediately drop all my weight and live my fairy tale life?

NO!

But I’m ok with that. I’ve learned so much.

Do I wake up everyday with a perfect mindset?

NO! Ask my accountability daughter - I have my days when I’m frustrated as hell. But I don’t give up and I keep working to figure it all out.

But because progress is going at the rate it’s supposed to go I don’t always see how far I’ve come. Today I happen to get out the photos I took almost a year and a half ago and. WoW. I’ve done some awesome stuff

Here’s to celebrating how far I’ve come and for continuing to figure out the future me I want to be…

Oh yeah… I’ve lost almost 35 pounds since Feb. almost back to pre-Covid weight! Almost to within 100 pounds of my goal!